I was hungry, scary sugar out-of-whack, feed me right now hungry.  In Springfield, Missouri is a restaurant called the Gem of India.  Indian food sounded perfect  and I love Chicken Tikka Masala, so in I went, alone and unsupervised.The buffet was in full swing, this place was busy.  Now, Chicken Tikka Marsala borders on being a religious experience for me so the buffet simply won’t cut it, the sauce is too mild and the temperature of the food is never “just right”.  Yes, I’m THAT guy.  The waiter, grudgingly, provides a menu, I order and then start gnawing on the table, waiting impatiently.

Quickly it arrives in a large bowl along with rice, Garlic Naan bread and Chai tea.  Add rice to the plate, then sauce, tear up the Naan…first bite, Wow! Perfect, too perfect.  I was using a fork but then discovered a large serving spoon nearby.  I could double the volume with this glorious instrument.  So I did.

I soon hear giggling to my right, it’s the staff watching me eat.  I notice that even the cook came out.  There I sat, my mouth stuffed completely full, oblivious to the world, a huge spoon in my right hand and a fork in my left (apparently I forgot to put it down) stuffing my face like a pelican and still finding room for the bread, while slurping down the tea.  It was THAT good.  The cook said something in “Indian”, most likely warning the staff to not get too close.  The waiter then cautiously approached asking if I was “OK”.  My mouth was too full to answer, so I mumbled out “Pepsi” and tried to smile which I’m sure only made it worse.  I then quickly finished and was scraping the shine off the plate when I was complimented by the waiter who said “normally this will feed two people”.  I surveyed the damage in front of me, they would need a new table-cloth and a vacuum.

In my defense, the “crud” I caught recently in Vietnam, had taken 6 pounds of my normal 162, so I was trying to efficiently maximize my dietary intake and also Lilly wasn’t there to supervise, so it’s her fault.

Gem of India makes a scary good Chicken Tikka Masala and when they let me come back, I’ll be enjoying it again.  If you’re traveling through Springfield, Gem of India is well worth the visit.  Remember to use your Chase Sapphire Reserve (3x Points) to pay the bill.  Gem of India, 211 W Battlefield Street, Springfield MO.

In the past, as I would board a plane, I wondered how the 1st/Business Class flyers did it.  These were the Elite and I was jealous.  They just oozed “class”.

As I traveled more and began using Points and Miles to my advantage, I was able to move up from the cattle car to the big leagues.

Now, on a recent trip to Asia, I noticed that I’ve apparently become quite comfortable in Business Class.  Minions, Really!?  I can see United’s billboard ad already; “The New face of the United Airlines Elite Business Class Flyer”. I’m still waiting for their call…

She arrived at her destination and appears to be fine.  Her new window view looks spectacular compared to the view she had on my dresser.

To quote Dr Seuss:

How did it get so late so soon? It’s night before it’s afternoon. December is here before it’s June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?

35 years has past and that is that…You can read part 1 by going back a few posts and finding the post bearing the same title.  It’s worth the read.

What to do?  I am in a travel “lull”.  Today I was asked about when I would be adding to my blog.  I stared back blankly, that neutered dog look.  I love to write good stories about life and travel but lately, just not feelin it.

It’s rare that I have three weeks without going somewhere, but here I am, doing home maintenance and…gardening.  I’m cleaning gutters, ladders and leafy crap are everywhere.   Having to fight off the urge to wrap that stubborn non-yielding garden hose around my neck and swan dive into the neighbors’ yard during his BBQ time. Now that’s a story.  Clearly it’s time to hit the road!  Off to Alabama soon, Vienna and Salzburg are calling in July (you won’t be able to shut me up then), Tennessee, Florida, Arizona and California later in the year.

The Big Bloggers always seem to find something to add; a retweet or share.  Little bits of helpful stuff we use everyday.  I thought about taking pictures of me walking away from the camera sporting the latest fashion jeans (good luck getting that picture out of your head) or a photo of a two headed lizard eating god-knows-what, both of which make me giggle and both of which are unlikely to appear in my blog.  Quality over quantity.

Anyways, I’m here waiting to be inspired….butterflies and puppy dogs, that’s what’s floating around in the flotsam of my mind.  That’s where I’m at.  Gawd, I need to be in Italy…and soon!

After class ended, I hurried to the parking lot to meet two of my friends.  As usual they were already there and seemed curious as I walked up carrying a brown paper bag.  “What’s in the bag?”, asked one.  “You wouldn’t believe the class nightmare I just left”, I replied as I opened the bag and took out the musical doll.  They stared and then started laughing hysterically as I told them, detail by detail, what had just happened in Psych.  “Sell it in a garage sale or shove in it the closet”, the other suggested.  Still laughing they got into their cars and left, leaving me standing in a parking lot holding a doll in one hand and a bag in the other.  I remember thinking when I left the class earlier, that this day just couldn’t get any worse.  I was apparently wrong.  This journey was just beginning.

We are all Traveler’s in one sense or another.  Either traveling from point A to point B or traveling through time, living our lives from one day to the next.  We are also students of history, our individual history, as each of us is the product of our life’s unique experiences.  Simply said, we are who we are because of the life we’ve lived, the choices we’ve made and the lessons we have hopefully learned.  As for me, this particular life lesson began 35 years ago and it started with the gift of a well-travelled musical doll.

Psychology, it was my last class of the day.  The teacher, Dr. Waltz asked of us only that we pay attention and participate in class discussions, in exchange for which we would only be given a few written assignments and very little homework.  As a senior in high school and a slacker, this class was perfect and became an immediate favorite.  I could daydream or act interested when it suited me, allowing me to unwind from a hard day of doing as little as possible in my other classes.

It was a large class and the desks were arranged in a square “horseshoe” pattern, which means that no matter where you sat you were staring at a row of people who were staring back at you making it difficult to hide my disinterest.  My incessant doodling was reaching epic proportions as I appeared to be taking notes on the daily discussions.  One day though, in the middle of an intense doodling session, Dr. Waltz threw out a rare assignment which I’m sure was written down only to be later covered by circles and other doodles until it was lost on the page.

As I later learned, the assignment was to give something of intrinsic value, inexpensive in cost, to another student to experience the freedom of “letting go” of something you loved.  He left it wide open and up to us to search ourselves for this “something”.  We had about two weeks to decide.  Somehow names were exchanged and all that was left was to come up with the item.  My exchange partner was Kristine.  I knew very little about her other than that she sat directly across the classroom from me, was always nice and that she was a year behind me in graduating.  After class was over, I forgot about the whole assignment and went about my business thinking of other “more important” things.

About two weeks later, I wandered into class only to learn that an assignment was due today and that it involved the giving of a gift of intrinsic value.  Other students carried bags and boxes of this and that and were busy preparing a speech of some sort as we apparently had to do the exchange in the front of the class explaining to everyone why this “item” meant so much to you.  Panic set in as I had nothing to give.  Kristine had a large paper bag.  I was sick.  I began frantically digging through my wallet and miraculously found a business sized card with the name “Jesus” written in block letters.  The kind of card that played tricks on your eyes as you had to look hard to see the message.  My Mother had given me the card about 2 years before as a reminder to be a good Christian.  It had meaning to me but was far below the “standard” that I needed today.   I quickly concocted an elaborate story around the card which had then elevated its status to that of a precious family heirloom.  It was patently pathetic and I just hoped I could pull this off and in the process not be sent to hell for using the card in this scheme.

I gave my presentation.  I told my story.  I stared at the class, they stared back, clearly unimpressed.  She accepted my card with grace and then it was her turn.  I held my breath.

From a brown paper bag, she brought out a doll.  It was incredibly beautiful and if you turned her on her pedestal, she played music; Around the World in 80 Days.  The doll was clearly aged but well cared for and Kristine held her gently as she passionately told her story.  The doll had been given to her by her Great Aunt when her (the Great Aunt’s) Mother had passed away.  She (Kristine) was very young when she received this treasured gift and that at that time, things were very hard for her and her family.  Throughout this difficult time though she had this doll which represented both beauty and grace and she cherished it dearly.  It was a true family heirloom….and now she was giving it to me.

I’m going to be sick, I remember thinking, as I prayed for an earthquake, Tsunami or the Biblical end of times, anything to save me from this moment.  I wasn’t going to hell, they had refused and were holding a special meeting to find somewhere worse to put me.  I held the doll gently and returned to my desk, refusing to look up.  She returned to her desk with my card in her hand.  The class continued until the last gift was exchanged and then mercifully, it ended and I left as fast as I could.

That was in California and it was 1982.  Never in my life had I been so crushed as I was that day.  The guilt was overwhelming.  I talked to Kristine once over the next few weeks and tried to give the doll back, but she refused so I assured her that I would take care of her precious gift and asked her to write a note describing the dolls history, which she did.  Quietly, I promised myself that someday I would return the doll to her.  The semester ended, I graduated and time moved on.  I never heard from Kristine again and true to form, lost the note.

The doll became a part of my room, always being somewhere visible.  I remember being glad that it wasn’t an old crockpot or a gaudy painting.  I guess it really wouldn’t have mattered as long as the back-story was the same.  For many years, she has been on top of my dresser protected in a plastic display case.  My Children have all grown up with her.  I’ve told them the story which I’m sure has been long forgotten.  They just know her as “Dad’s doll” and know that she is not to be played with.  Over the years, we have moved many times locally and then to another state and in each new house, she has always been placed somewhere close to me, reminding me to be a better person and of the unselfish sacrifice Kristine had made.  Whether I’ve learned the lesson or not, can only be answered by those who know me, but she keeps reminding me to try.

35 years have now gone by and she hasn’t changed, still in her case, still able to play music.  It’s amazing how much time has passed and how far we have traveled since that awful  day.   I’ve started to feel different as I look at her.  It’s time to keep the promise I had made and return her to Kristine and her family.  35 years is long enough.

In April of this year I finally found Kristine who seemed shocked that I still had the doll.  We exchanged thoughts on how the musical doll had affected our lives.   She obviously had no idea of what I had done at the time and didn’t even remember the card I had given her. Kristine graciously agreed to take back the gift that she gave to me so long ago.  The doll was packaged carefully and has been shipped back to her.  I am grateful that she didn’t remember how awful I was and pleased that I actually did keep my promise.  It was difficult to say goodbye to such a precious gift that I held for so long a time.  I now have an empty spot on my dresser, perhaps I’ll try and find an old bowling trophy or some other meaningless trinket to fill the space.  Ultimately it really doesn’t matter what is placed there,  I’m sure that I’ll still see the beautiful musical doll reminding me of the girl who had the courage to give up something she cherished and loved to demonstrate the ability to “let go”.

In 1955, Del Corona became a licensed Barber.  In 1964 he became the owner of an iconic Barber Shop that, even today, still bears his name.  Located in Ventura California’s west side, an area colloquially known as “the Avenue”, Del, now 82, continues to provide excellent haircuts to many local residents as well as others who drive hours for a half- hour of his time.  I grew up here, I grew up with Del.

In 1973, my Mother dragged me kicking and screaming into Del’s Barber shop.  I didn’t want my hair cut and not by Del, especially.  We had just moved here and I wanted my hair cut by the other guy in the other city who I was used too.  But here I was.  Del was soft spoken but firm, I wasn’t leaving there without a haircut and that was that.  I grew to admire Del.  He never pulled a punch regarding advice or an opinion and you had to respect his impeccably groomed hair.

Del cut my hair from 1973 to 1991.  That’s 18 years.  During that time, one time, I got impatient and let another Barber cut it.  It was bad.  I was then forced to schlep my way back into Del’s where I then confessed to him my horrible sin.  Del looked at me, I imagine annoyed and disappointed, but still graciously fixed the mess on my head and sent me on my way.  When my son was about 8 months old, it was Del who gave him his first haircut.  With the exception of a stint in Army basic training, no one touched my “Do” until I moved to another state in 1991.

I’ve missed Del and have never built a relationship with another Barber that lasted longer than 3-4 years as they seem to be quite a transient lot.

I stopped by Del’s on a recent trip to Ventura and found that he was still there, in the same place cutting hair at 82.  He looked great, still taller than me, his black hair now gray but still perfectly groomed.  Del stared at me for a moment and then called me by name and asked about my Mother.  It had been 26 years since I had last walked through his door.  Del graced me with a photo and we parted ways as he had customers lining up.  I was jealous, I wondered if they knew how lucky they were…

7 Ways Travel Can Change Your Life

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If you’re a Foodie and happen to be in LA, go by the downtown Grand Central Market.  From Fresh Meats to Produce, it’s all here.  In addition, restaurants abound and offer meals of all types allowing you to explore a world of flavors all under one roof.  Enjoy!

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.”
Elie Wiesel

When I travel to another country, I endeavor  to learn it’s culture and experience as much of it as I possibly can.  I want to know what is most important to them, what makes them smile.

If the country has a culture of kindness, I will make the effort to return to them the warmth and respect that they have generously shown to me.  I am humbled.

If they have a culture of suspicion or disdain, I am anonymous, invisible and looking for the exit.  I expect nothing and offer the same.

I have been to both.  I prefer the first.

Giving blood and plasma can be one of the greatest gifts that you can give to a community or in a time of crisis.

Many Bloodbanks have strict rules on when you are allowed to donate if you have been to certain countries within a period of time.

Our Bloodbank in Missouri won’t let you donate for ONE full year if you’ve been to Cambodia, 30 days if you’ve been to China or Vietnam.  These are just a few examples.

My wife has a rare blood type that can be used on anyone.  She gave often and made a difference.   Now she is unable to donate for a year and the blood bank is having a fit.  Check with your local facility for their rules especially if you have a rare, high need blood type.  Donate before you go.

Dallas has caught me off guard with it’s beauty.  Lots of greenery and the weather has been perfect.  It’s time to check this place out!  Courtyard Marriott, two room suite, three nights for 30k Marriott points, TOTAL!

As I have wandered the world, Italy has always held my heart.  To own a Home in Tuscany, to live there, such a wonderful dream.  I smile; silly thoughts.  It’s just a house…as my mind drifts, I am reminded of a quote from the movie, Under the Tuscan Sun.

“What are four walls, anyway?  They are what they contain.  The house protects the dreamer. Unthinkably good things can happen, even late in the game.”

I love silly thoughts

The traveler sees what he sees, the tourist sees what he has come to see.

-G K Chesterton

Romania is so much more than Dracula’s Castle.  Tourism is relatively new here and if you get out of the big cities, you’re in for a treat!  Romania is divided into regions, one of which is Transylvania.  The Romanian answer to any question, is to eat…and eat hearty you will.  Pork, beef and chicken are very popular dishes and almost everything comes with some form of potatoes.  Prices are inexpensive and the hospitality is fantastic.

We flew into Bucharest and took a bus to Poiana Brasov, Transylvania, where our hotel came with our very own bat.  We named him Evan and he was attached to our window the whole time.

We went to Dracula’s Castle in Bran.  Bran is out in the countryside, a beautifully quaint hilly small town…with a large Castle and a dubious past.  It is THE “Dracula’s Castle” but the locals can’t seem to agree if Vlad the Impaler (Dracula) ever slept there.

We Traveled to Sibiu, a medium sized community with a great City Square, where the residents gathered to discuss whatever one discusses in Sibiu.

Sibiu

Romania was one of my favorite trips.  Gypsies were everywhere, traveling on horse-drawn carts.  It was like walking back through time.

Transylvania is a “must see” on your Travel List!